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The How to Grow a Soul Mate Checklist
As to meeting a potential Soul Mate, it's not about where you go—charity
functions, bars, the Internet. In other words, it's not about what you do; it's
about how you do it, how you act, the kind of energy you send out. Where you go
to meet people is irrelevant. Taking this advice "magnetizes" the
right person to you. Use these checklists to discern whom you do and don't
want. Begin to act accordingly, and see what happens.
1. Never take each other for granted.
Show how lucky you feel to know each other and make sure to spend as much time
together as possible. Work together, if you can. Giving little gifts for no
special reason will delight your partner and yourself!
2. Treat each other as equals. You
may not have the same background, looks, talents, connections, power, or
potential, but you are two halves of the same team. Act like it.
3. Always compliment each other on
good qualities and do it several times a day. If you like the way he/she looks,
smells, or makes you feel today, say so.
4. Have concern for each other's total
welfare, even if it causes you to reverse yourself on some long-cherished
notion. Make the other person's needs as important as your own. Once you have
determined that you have found your Soul Mate, you can make his/her needs more
important than your own. Don't worry—you will want to do so.
5. Be kind. Really listen to each
other's words, and try to understand each other's position. Do not assume that
you know how the other feels. Ask when you want to know something. Never refuse
to communicate.
6. Get to the root of anger,
frustration, anxiety, and fear. Learn to tell when you are the problem and when
you might be the solution, and try to be the solution more often than the
problem.
7. Always show how happy you are to
see each other and smile, even if you are in the middle of hearing the most
annoying news. Remember, you are each the most important and powerful thing in
each other's lives. Everything else is secondary.
8. Forgive each other and mean it.
Have the courage to be imperfect. Admit it when you are wrong. Assume that you
could be wrong, even when you think you are right; it is not as hard as it
sounds.
9. Always use criticism carefully and
constructively. Do not demand change from anyone but yourself. Do not demand
change from anyone but yourself. It's important enough to say twice.
10. Share and explore your fantasies, dreams for the future,
and the dreams you awaken from. Never go to sleep angry. Making up can do
wonders for your ability to sleep soundly.
11. Compromise whenever possible, especially on matters of
taste. Eat the same food so your breaths will smell the same. If that is
impossible, do not eat foods or wear scents, styles, and colors that offend
your Soul Mate.
12. Keep a positive attitude and a sense of humor, especially
about yourself. No matter what happens, if you two are together, relatively
healthy, and your bills are paid, laugh at the other stuff.
If your potential partner resists these twelve
rules for Soul Mate nurturing, or if she or he does not treat you with the same
caring and kindness, you will have to tell her or him. Don't give up on her/him
if she/he makes an effort to change after you gently and tactfully make her/him
aware of your concerns.
c) Monte Farber from The Soulmate Path
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