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Men are even crazier than I thought!
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Those of you who have read my previous blogs know that I have a "thing" about the lack of true manliness in most of the males that I encounter. Most males are overgrown boys, Peter Pans who won't grow up because they don't want to grow old. They think that their youth with all of its stupidity is meant to be hung on to, as if they can still wear their high school clothes. Fashions change and so should people or else you look like you're trying to be something you are not. Life is an adventure and you pay for it with your time, growing in learning and the wisdom to use it You also have to do the work and the work includes growing up, growing older, and moving through your life appropriately.
But when it comes to relationships, that's where men are crazier than I thought and I thought they were plenty crazy! One thing you learn about mentally ill people, and I know a few, is that they always top themselves. Just when you think they've done the most unexpected, disturbing, and disheartening thing possible, they show you that they, too, are not limited in their possibilities to achieve their goals. But crazy people have goals that treat other people as if they are cardboard cutouts, mere props in these crazy people's worlds.
Are you listening ladies and gentlemen in partnership with men? Men are mentally ill - crazier than I thought. Most of them would be better off with blow-up sex dolls - at least they won't devastate them with lines like "I love you but I don't want to be married/don't want to be engaged/don't want to be with you any more." Or my favorite "I love you but I'm not in love with you." What the hell does that mean? You might as well just say "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I'm out of here." But it gets worse.
I know a few males, nice guys, not the bad boys so many women are attracted to (that's your insane core problem, ladies) who have been in what I though were long-term relationships that have lasted for years, but I was wrong. They were not in relationships, they were playing the waiting game. These guys were looking for women to have sex with, women to believe their bullshit and treat them like their mother or the mother they wished they'd had.
But instead, these lucky males found women who actually liked them, loved them even, bullshit and all, but did these guys appreciate it? Were they kind and caring? Well, yes they were kind and caring, except where it counted. So these guys had sexual relationships and wanted to move on to other women, because that is what they want or is it what they used to want when they were youths and are still clinging to because they're afraid of getting older because that reminds them that they will die one day. I really don't care, they should just get a grip and say sorry, but I don't want to waste your time, I don't want to get into a relationship and I really don't want to get married.
But they couldn't because they are "nice" guys and though they don't love these ladies or they don't know what love is, I'm not sure which, they didn't want to be "bad" or "mean" and break up with their women. I suppose they want to be liked at all costs, even at all costs to themselves and those who love them. But what they do is ten times worse than simply saying, sorry, six months is all a relationship with me ever lasts and though I can't figure out why you're different and haven't been the one to break it off, I'm breaking it off now.
What they do is string their supposed lovers along and wait them out, acting decent but not loving and subtly and not so subtly informing their women that they are not in love with them, but never owning up to their shortcomings or blaming it on everything in their life but themselves. These big strong brave men make the cowards choice of letting their women do the breaking up and making them the "bad person." I know, it sounds insane. But that's what I said. They're crazier than I thought.
Ladies, you've been warned. Spread this blog around, copy and paste it, print it out and slip it under the door of someone you know is on either end of this losing equation. This criminal waste of time, energy, and heartache has got to stop. It's boring and as a psychic I find myself in the middle of these no-win situations. Can't we all just get along?
Signed,
A Friend (Monte Farber) |
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